When deciding between private in-home care and daycare, there are pros and cons to each. Hiring a nanny offers personalized care, while daycare can provide built-in socialization and affordability. But what if you could have the best of both worlds? A nanny share is a creative solution that blends the benefits of both models, offering families high-quality care, social interaction for their children, and shared costs.

1) What a nanny share is and how it works

A nanny share is when two (occasionally three) families hire one nanny to care for their children at the same time. Typically, the children are close in age, and the care takes place at one family’s home or alternates between homes.

Families usually split the nanny’s hourly wage, making the arrangement more affordable while still ensuring personalized, high-quality care.

The key is flexibility and clear communication. Every share can look a little different depending on everyone’s needs.

2) The benefits of a nanny share arrangement

For many families, a nanny share strikes the perfect balance between affordability and individualized care.

a) Lower cost

By splitting the nanny’s hourly rate, each family pays significantly less than they would for a private nanny, while the nanny still earns a competitive full-time wage.

b) Built-in socialization

Children benefit from regular interaction with a peer (or two!). This social dynamic helps with language development, cooperation, and play skills. A nanny share acts as the perfect setting for these skills to form.

c) Personalized care

Unlike daycare, a nanny share allows for:

• Flexible routines
• Focused attention
• A familiar caregiver who adapts to your child’s individual needs

d) Flexibility

Nanny shares often allow for more customizable scheduling than traditional daycare. This can be especially helpful for families with non-standard work hours or unique daily routines.

3) Potential challenges and how to navigate them

As with any childcare setup, nanny shares come with their own set of considerations. Knowing these upfront—and preparing for them—can set your arrangement up for success.

a) Coordination between families

Clear, ongoing communication is essential. Both families should agree on:

• Schedule and hours
• Location of care
• Daily routines (meals, naps, screen time)
• Parenting philosophies (discipline, milestones, etc.)
• Illness protocols

Creating a written agreement between the families, separate from your nanny contract, can help clarify expectations and avoid misunderstandings.

b) Fair compensation

Even though costs are shared, your nanny should still be fairly compensated for the total number of children and responsibilities. Ensure:

• Their hourly rate reflects the added effort of caring for multiple children
• All parties agree on pay, overtime, and paid time off
• Payroll and tax responsibilities are clearly outlined (pro tip: use a payroll service!)

c) Space and logistics

While it’s advised that the nanny share stay in one location, some might utilize multiple homes, switching locations depending on the day. If care alternates between homes, make sure all are equally equipped and child-safe. Consider transportation logistics, nap arrangements, and how your child adapts to different environments.

4) How to know if a nanny share is right for your family

A nanny share could be an excellent fit if:

• You’re seeking affordable, high-quality care
• You want social interaction for your child, but prefer a home setting
• You’re comfortable working closely with another family
• You can be flexible and collaborative with schedules and routines

It may not be the best choice if:

• Your child thrives in very quiet, one-on-one environments
• Your work schedule is highly unpredictable
• You prefer a high level of control over your child’s daily routine
• You’re not comfortable navigating shared decision-making

Ultimately, the success of a nanny share depends on compatibility between families, with the nanny, and with your child’s personality and needs.

A nanny share can offer the perfect blend of affordability, consistency, and socialization, especially for families looking for something between daycare and private nanny care. With the right match, clear communication, and thoughtful planning, it can be a deeply rewarding and sustainable childcare solution.